It is not traumatizing to date online, but there are a few things that you need to know in order to succeed in this dating scene. I found it an easier way to meet people because I did not meet many eligible singles in my line of work.
- Safety First: Your profile should not reveal too much about your personal life such as your employment details. It is also advisable to follow your instincts and meet in public places.
- Follow the rules, but make an exception: You should be suspicious about one-picture persons as they tend to hide something about themselves. I considered backing out of such an arrangement when I realized the girl only had one picture as her profile.
- Online dating norms can be impolite: Most people tend to ignore you when they lose interest instead of just telling you how they feel. This is the downside of online dating. You should be prepared for anything and know when to read the writing on the wall.
- Be direct: Not everyone is direct when it comes to communication and if you have the same problem like I did, online dating can be a good way to practice.
- Organize a meeting as soon as possible: You might communicate frequently over hundreds of emails, but a face to face meeting would be more efficient.
- Avoid meals on the first date: Having a meal limits the chances of engaging in a meaningful conversation and also extends the date unnecessarily. Having a cup of coffee instead would be a better idea.
- Reserve your favorite sport for later: It probably is not the best idea to take your date to your favorite sporting event on the first date.
- Be forthcoming about the chemistry: Although you should not place physical attraction above everything else, you simply cannot ignore it. But you should allow for character to play an important role in making a decision whether to proceed with the relationship or not.
- Dress down: Many people are tempted to over dress for the first date in order to make a good impression. This is not usually a good idea because you can get uncomfortable during the date, and you are likely to give a false representation of yourself especially if you go out of your way to impress the girl.